Forthis week’sPEOPLE cover story,Michelle Obamatalks candidly aboutwhyshe’s talked about “the hard parts” of her marriage with husbandBarack Obama— and what comes after.The former first lady says she and the 44th president decided to speak openly about the difficulties of their relationship and how they overcame those in large part to be an example for young people.“We didn’t have role models of the hard times because our parents, their generation were taught you don’t talk about marriage and you definitely don’t talk about the hard times,” Mrs. Obama, 57, tells PEOPLE. “So, when you’re young and coming up and raising a family together, no one has prepared you for the fact that there will be times when you will have to devote your energies to other things.“In recent years, the Obamas have not shied away from the truth about the past stresses on their relationship.• For more onMichelle Obama’s life now — what she’s learned and what’s next for her and her family —subscribe now to PEOPLEor pick up this week’s issue, on newsstands now.Michelle Obama on the cover of PEOPLE.Miller MobleyFrom left: Michelle and Barack Obama in 2019.Scott Olson/GettyIn her 2018 memoirBecoming, and during an accompanying book tour, Mrs. Obama revealed that she and President Obamahad gone to marriage counselingearlier in their marriage.“What I learned about myself was that my happiness was up to me and I started working out more, I started asking for help, not just from him but from other people,” she said onGood Morning Americaat the time.“Marriage counseling, for us, was one of those ways where we learned to talk out our differences,” she said.Speaking with PEOPLE in 2018, she said it was “important for us to be honest and say, ‘If you’re in a marriage and there are times you want to leave, that’s normal’ — because I felt that way.“As hetold PEOPLE in the fall, “During the time we were there, Michelle felt this underlying tension. The pressure, stress, of needing to get everything right, to be ‘on’ at every moment.““There were times where I think she was frustrated or sad or angry but knew that I had Afghanistan or the financial crisis to worry about,” President Obama said, “so she would tamp it down.“Mrs. Obama says in this week’s cover story that “fortunately” those days have since returned since their two-term tenure at the White House.Andrew Harnik/AP/REX/Shutterstock.From left: Michelle and Barack Obama in 2018Former President Barack Obama and former First Lady Michelle Obama arrive to President-elect Joe Biden’s inauguration on Jan. 20 at the U.S. Capitol.Getty"What I’ve come to learn is that thankfully we had a strong enough foundation,” Mrs. Obama says, adding that she and her husband weren’t fully realizing what difficulties their marriage faced in those years.“You don’t have that hindsight,” she says. “You don’t have that perspective. All you’re doing is getting through.”
Forthis week’sPEOPLE cover story,Michelle Obamatalks candidly aboutwhyshe’s talked about “the hard parts” of her marriage with husbandBarack Obama— and what comes after.The former first lady says she and the 44th president decided to speak openly about the difficulties of their relationship and how they overcame those in large part to be an example for young people.“We didn’t have role models of the hard times because our parents, their generation were taught you don’t talk about marriage and you definitely don’t talk about the hard times,” Mrs. Obama, 57, tells PEOPLE. “So, when you’re young and coming up and raising a family together, no one has prepared you for the fact that there will be times when you will have to devote your energies to other things.“In recent years, the Obamas have not shied away from the truth about the past stresses on their relationship.
• For more onMichelle Obama’s life now — what she’s learned and what’s next for her and her family —subscribe now to PEOPLEor pick up this week’s issue, on newsstands now.
Michelle Obama on the cover of PEOPLE.Miller Mobley
From left: Michelle and Barack Obama in 2019.Scott Olson/Getty
In her 2018 memoirBecoming, and during an accompanying book tour, Mrs. Obama revealed that she and President Obamahad gone to marriage counselingearlier in their marriage.
“What I learned about myself was that my happiness was up to me and I started working out more, I started asking for help, not just from him but from other people,” she said onGood Morning Americaat the time.
“Marriage counseling, for us, was one of those ways where we learned to talk out our differences,” she said.
Speaking with PEOPLE in 2018, she said it was “important for us to be honest and say, ‘If you’re in a marriage and there are times you want to leave, that’s normal’ — because I felt that way.”
As hetold PEOPLE in the fall, “During the time we were there, Michelle felt this underlying tension. The pressure, stress, of needing to get everything right, to be ‘on’ at every moment.”
“There were times where I think she was frustrated or sad or angry but knew that I had Afghanistan or the financial crisis to worry about,” President Obama said, “so she would tamp it down.“Mrs. Obama says in this week’s cover story that “fortunately” those days have since returned since their two-term tenure at the White House.
Andrew Harnik/AP/REX/Shutterstock.From left: Michelle and Barack Obama in 2018
Former President Barack Obama and former First Lady Michelle Obama arrive to President-elect Joe Biden’s inauguration on Jan. 20 at the U.S. Capitol.Getty
“What I’ve come to learn is that thankfully we had a strong enough foundation,” Mrs. Obama says, adding that she and her husband weren’t fully realizing what difficulties their marriage faced in those years.“You don’t have that hindsight,” she says. “You don’t have that perspective. All you’re doing is getting through.”
source: people.com
