Thomas Ravenel‘s girlfriendAshley Jacobsmay not have a good relationship with his ex Kathryn Dennis, but she’s still a part of their two kids’ lives.
In an exclusive interview, Jacobs, 33, tells PEOPLE that despite their very public feud on season 5 ofSouthern Charm—and Dennis’ request at Thursday’s reunion that Jacobs not spend time with daughterKensie, 4, and sonSaint, 2½ — she still spends time with them.
“It’s great,” Jacobs says. “I hear a lot of the rumors of I’m not allowed around the kids, and that’s not true. I am allowed around the kids, and I see them a lot. Thomas gets them 50/50, and before he had them more than that, so it’s inevitable. I’m going to be around them when I’m with him.”
“They’re sweet, sweet children,” she adds. “And very loving and happy.”
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Nevertheless, Jacobs made it clear to PEOPLE she’s not trying to replace Dennis.
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It should come as no surprise that Jacobs and Dennis haven’t repaired their relationship.
“I actually asked her if she would ever want to get together and talk — coffee, lunch, my treat,” Jacobs recalls, explaining she ran into Dennis at a restaurant. “Kathryn said no.”
Ideally, Jacobs says she wants to be in a position with Dennis where the two are cordial, focused on forgiveness and moving forward.
“Personally, I don’t like to have enemies. I need closure. I want things to be on good terms. Even if we are not best friends, I want there to be an opening for something,” Jacobs continues. “”It would make life easier, not to be full of anger and hate and frustration. It’s uncomfortable for me, it’s uncomfortable for her, it’s uncomfortable for Thomas, and it’s uncomfortable for the children, and that’s the priority. I want to get on that path — to be cordial, to see her out and be able to say hi and have a friendly conversation.”
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Does that mean Jacobs would apologize for what she said?
“Yes, I’d like that opportunity to apologize, but I don’t think she’d ever probably take me that seriously” she says. “I forgive very easily, but I have to understand that we’re different people. Just because I’m able to do that, doesn’t mean she can or she wants to. And i’s been hard for me to apologize because I don’t think she really cares. And even if I do apologize and do try to make friends, I don’t really trust that [it will stick].”
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Is Ravenel, 55, helping them negotiate peace in the mean time?
“Thomas still talks to her, occasionally, and I think here and there, they might bring me up briefly,” says Jacobs. “He has tried. He has tried. I want to hug it out, but he says she’s not there. He says she thinks it’s like funny, or blows it off, or rolls her eyes when he brings it up. He goes, ‘She’s not forgiving. She’s not going to forgive you.’ ”
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Meanwhile, Dennis has found a way to put her anger towards Ravenel aside. (They dated on and off for a few years before ending their relationship in 2016.)
They put on aunited front at Saint’s second birthday partyandcelebrated Kensie’s dance recital togetherin June.
They’ve also beensharing photos and videos with their kids togetherthis summer, at beach gatherings andat-home dance parties.
Ravenel was not at theSouthern Charmreunion. The network is still investigating the situation after he was accused ofsexually assaulting two women, including his children’s former nanny (Ravenel has denied all allegations).
source: people.com
